Search For Significance - Third Episode
When we last left “A Search for Significance” Tamar’s dream of motherhood was denied.
Because of Onan’s behavior, God also put him to sleep. “Judah then said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, ‘Live as a widow in your father’s household until my son Shelah grows up.’ For he thought, He may die too, just like his brothers (Genesis 38:11).” We are first exposed to the insidiousness of blaming others in the book of Genesis after Adam and Eve sinned. Adam said the woman God gave him made him eat the fruit and Eve said it was the snake’s fault. Ultimately, they both blamed God for His creations. We can see how blaming others can damage relationships. Blaming appears to release us of responsibility, but by not taking responsibility for our choices or feelings, we are saying we are powerless and are easily manipulated by circumstances, situations or others. For instance, the “Ifs:” If the people in church were …; If they were nicer…. If they had given me the position…. The “Ifs” can be endless. Judah’s “ifs” were, if Tamar had not married his two older sons, they would still be alive and if I give her to Shelah he would die. In other words, blaming Tamar made it easy for him to send her back to her father’s house to wait.
To be continued…